“Don’t put your dreams on hold, put your excuses on hold.” – Summer Brackhan
My name is Thivy Michelle and once upon a time I was a little girl with big dreams that I promised to make real one day. I am going to get a bit personal and give you a glimpse into my life. This year has by far been one of the most challenging years for me. As I’m sitting here typing this, I am physically recovering from a car accident. Living in New York City was a struggle, I was constantly on the go and never had time for myself. Armed with only my Master’s in Fashion Marketing, I plunged feet first into the real world. I decided to move back to Florida to be with my family, figure out my career, and build a foundation for my future. On top of that, I recently got out of a 5-year relationship with someone that I absolutely adored. To this day, I still have nothing but respect for this person. I am not the type of person that normally shares details about my personal life, but I’ve been holding everything together for a while now to the point where I was letting myself down. I needed to take a step back to breathe, put my work aside, and get reacquainted with myself. On the outside, it seemed like I had everything going well for me. I recently got featured on Teen Vogue and started a new job. While I was only shining a spotlight on the good aspects of my life through social media outlets, I was truly broken inside. My lack of trust in people led me to bottle up all my problems which caused awful anxiety. Now I finally reached a place where I can open up about the situation and it feels like weights have been lifted off my shoulders. Words could not express my gratitude to my family and friends for being my biggest support system. I would not have gotten through this difficult time without them. They put things into perspective for me; the past should stay in the past, and I need to look forward to the future. Right now, I’m in a much better place and stronger than I have ever been. There are many wonderful experiences coming and I can’t wait to see where life takes me. It feels good to focus on myself and grow into the genuine person that I want to be. Most importantly, I’m just super excited to finally launch my site, confident and unshackled from excuses and negativity.
My website should have been launched a while ago but I didn’t want to put something out there representing me that I couldn’t fully dedicate myself to. As I rebuilt my confidence, I focused on what truly inspires and motivates me. I look forward to sharing all these moments and ideas with you as I grow my site. Mainly, I am overjoyed to finally say that I am officially launching my own lifestyle website that will include content for fashion, travel, beauty, style, tech and so much more. I hope this site turns out to be everything you expected and more.
My promise to myself and you my readers is that I will stay true to myself throughout this journey. When you publicly put yourself out there, it opens you up to criticism so it is easy to lose sight of oneself. I refuse to let anybody’s criticism define who I am. I was all too aware of people’s opinions of me and I let fear hold me back from being authentic which prevented me from producing content that I wanted to display. Throughout the past month, I learned that what a person says when you aren’t there to defend yourself says more about that person than you. I can’t blame anybody but myself for letting it get to me. Once you start to become more secure with yourself, you realize that you don’t need to put other people down to be happy. Do not let other people’s opinion of you affect how you see yourself and stop you from doing what you love. I hope that through this site I will be able to inspire someone, whether that be through fashion or an encouraging voice to a person working towards their goals. Overall, I can’t wait to share with you what I’ve learned throughout the years from style inspiration to life experiences.
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To anyone that can’t find motivation to start what you’ve always wanted to do, if you wait until you are ready then you will be waiting for the rest of your life.
(Photograph by Denny Nguyen)